more thoughts on making friends

[perevision]

In the end, it's just practice, isn't it? Like drawing. You can't say you're 'naturally' bad at it; what happens is you don't practice enough. Making friends is an art: it's fun and takes some work.

It takes practice to speak to people I've never met before, and even more practice to listen. It takes practice to remember to keep in touch, to reach out when I want to hear from them. But if I want to hear from them, to connect, then I want to practice--and it gets easier over time.

But just because you're not out there gladhanding all the time, doesn't mean you're antisocial. Sometimes you want to spend time connecting with yourself, too. This might be relevant:
http://heyluchie.tumblr.com/post/53461087106/my-comic-introversion-is-finished-please-go-to

Comments

[sheldrake.livejournal.com]

I can relate!

[angelthorn.livejournal.com]

I find that it's easier for me when people go out of their way to include me. From there I try to bond with them. But to go out of your way to insert yourself into an established group...gah. It's hard. :(